When I’m seeking comfort I often
turn to food and not good healthy food but food that I developed an emotional
attachment to years ago. I have an
emotional attachment to starchy-salty-sugary-fatty
deliciousness. I have no emotional attachment to fruits and
vegetables. I’ve never drowned my
sorrows in salmon or tofu. I have
attempted to comfort myself with quinoa but got nothing from it until I fried
it in butter and cheese.
I believe in the power of healthy
eating and have spent the better part of my life seeking to change my
dysfunctional relationship with food; I developed an eating disorder at 12
years old. Can you imagine trying to be
vegetarian in Denbigh in the ‘70’s? At
that time my Mom’s idea of a salad was either chopped iceberg lettuce dripping
in a mayonnaise and sugar dressing or cabbage suspended in Jello. I had a
vegetarian cookbook with all of these “exotic” ingredients that no one in the
Renfrew grocery store had ever heard of: Bulgur wheat? Never heard of it. My
problem was not that I wanted to be a vegetarian, my problem was I wanted to
lose weight and thought being a vegetarian would achieve that so all healthy
foods were just a means to an end.
Starchy-salty-sugary-fatty deliciousness was still my love, my friend,
my comforter. Until is wasn’t, of course, but I refused to let go because
sometimes is was.
In week 3 of our 6-part series we
look at “What happens in your body….When you eat healthier.” We all know what we’re suppose to eat to be
healthy and lose the weight, the hard part is doing it, especially during
stressful, boring, even happy times. We
are emotional beings; every thought and action we take has an emotional
component that can directly affect the food choices we make at the time. Most of us try and eat well. We know we feel
better when we eat healthy food, we know healthy food is medicine. So why don’t
we always choose healthy food? For many of us our connection to healthy food is
intellectual, we need to make it emotional as well. How do we do that?
Think back to when, and how, you
developed your emotional attachment starchy-salty-sugary-fatty
deliciousness. What was going on in your
life? Did it start as a distraction
tactic in the form of a cookie to numb the pain from a skinned knee? A bribe to
keep you quiet during church? A promise
of a reward for good behaviour at the dinner table? Or bravery at the dentist? As we got older we continued to self-medicate
with food based on those earlier habits.
And here we are all these years later still trying to manage those
attachments and it’s hard, and sometimes fruitless, work! How can we make it easier? Can we create an emotional
attachment to high-fiber/protein/good-fats food? Of course we can! Like other healthy habits we work to build,
we have the most success when we can connect them to feelings of pride, joy,
happiness and self-love. Recognizing how
great we feel after a walk, swim or practice yoga, is what really gets us off
of the couch and out the door, even though in the beginning all of those
activities might have simply been a means to our weight loss end.
Maybe it’s time to start
listening to our bodies. When you have acid reflux after a high fat meal that
your wolfed down after a stressful day, listen to what your body is trying to
tell you. It’s telling you that your
go-to comfort food no longer makes it happy.
When you mow through a can of Betty Crocker icing before bed and you wake
up with a sugar hangover, your body is trying to tell you to find another way
to deal with the boredom or loneliness because it’s not feeling the love from
the sugar. Time to start building a
loving and comforting attachment to healthy food by focusing and feeling how good
our bodies feel and hum along when we nourish it and maybe, just maybe, the
next time we have a stressful moment and we automatically decide a bucket of fried
chicken or a gallon of ice cream is the only thing that will make us feel
better, the attachment we’ve built to healthy and delicious food will give us
time to pause and make a better choice, a healthier choice.